Post from Mindless In Malaysia (& a friend's comment)
This is an old post, but the personal lesson is important enough to repost it here.
Moreover, a friend reminded me of another important lesson that I have forgotten.
Original Post:
Friday, May 28, 2004
Busyness revisited & stress
Hmmm, where shall I start...?
Yesterday was a weird day. Weird in the sense that I've never quite encountered anything like it before.
The day started out pretty ordinary, apart from the fact that I was "up" even without having my customary cup of coffee.
As I zoomed through the day - fully aware that I was in a zippidee-doodah kinda mood - I realised that although there were piles of work on my table and on the floor (in my Dilbert-like cubicle), I was unfazed by how hectic the day was.
Indeed, I had the "coolness" to SMS my better half and ask how her day has been so far.
Then, in the evening, I had to face a matter that I've sort of been avoiding all day. Despite the fact that it was just one single matter, it bugged the hell out of me. It took hours of agony to "resolve" the matter, and I still had to do some work on it this morning.
This morning, feeling a bit better after a relatively good night's sleep, I realised something else. Something that deserves an eureka!
Actually, I realised a few things:
(1) Busyness does not bother me; ie. being loaded with lots of work does not stress me out.
(2) What stresses me out is when I feel like I've lost control of the situation - when I don't know what I'm supposed to do in any given situation.
(3) The best solution for stress is to avoid getting myself into stressful situations in the first place.
(4) And if I find myself in a stressful situation, whether I like it or not, I should weather it because it's only a temporary situation (this point was shared with me by a good friend).
(5) Last but not least, to handle a stressful situation, I should try to get more time to do whatever I'm supposed to do and/or seek help from someone who can handle the situation (also my good friend's advice, which I forgot last night).
Nothing monumental, but definitely a step towards better self-understanding.
# posted by Malaysian X @ 2:54 AM
Comments:
you have forgotten, haven't you? on David Allen's three reasons of getting stress...a. you don't know or have not defined the outcome yetb. you have not figured out the next actionsc. you have not written it down in a reliable organizing system.your friend, CT.
# posted by Calvin's Tiger : 8:57 AM
Moreover, a friend reminded me of another important lesson that I have forgotten.
Original Post:
Friday, May 28, 2004
Busyness revisited & stress
Hmmm, where shall I start...?
Yesterday was a weird day. Weird in the sense that I've never quite encountered anything like it before.
The day started out pretty ordinary, apart from the fact that I was "up" even without having my customary cup of coffee.
As I zoomed through the day - fully aware that I was in a zippidee-doodah kinda mood - I realised that although there were piles of work on my table and on the floor (in my Dilbert-like cubicle), I was unfazed by how hectic the day was.
Indeed, I had the "coolness" to SMS my better half and ask how her day has been so far.
Then, in the evening, I had to face a matter that I've sort of been avoiding all day. Despite the fact that it was just one single matter, it bugged the hell out of me. It took hours of agony to "resolve" the matter, and I still had to do some work on it this morning.
This morning, feeling a bit better after a relatively good night's sleep, I realised something else. Something that deserves an eureka!
Actually, I realised a few things:
(1) Busyness does not bother me; ie. being loaded with lots of work does not stress me out.
(2) What stresses me out is when I feel like I've lost control of the situation - when I don't know what I'm supposed to do in any given situation.
(3) The best solution for stress is to avoid getting myself into stressful situations in the first place.
(4) And if I find myself in a stressful situation, whether I like it or not, I should weather it because it's only a temporary situation (this point was shared with me by a good friend).
(5) Last but not least, to handle a stressful situation, I should try to get more time to do whatever I'm supposed to do and/or seek help from someone who can handle the situation (also my good friend's advice, which I forgot last night).
Nothing monumental, but definitely a step towards better self-understanding.
# posted by Malaysian X @ 2:54 AM
Comments:
you have forgotten, haven't you? on David Allen's three reasons of getting stress...a. you don't know or have not defined the outcome yetb. you have not figured out the next actionsc. you have not written it down in a reliable organizing system.your friend, CT.
# posted by Calvin's Tiger : 8:57 AM
posted by Malaysian X at 3:43 AM
1 Comments:
Yes, stress has physical repercussions, and often it can be traced to physical sources, too.
Yes, some people are known to thrive on stressful situations. It gives them a buzz.
However, I wonder if the positive feeling that one gets is not actually caused by eustress (anti-stress).
Anyway, I certainly could do without stress, and I believe a healthy and positive lifestyle that gives us a buzz everyday is attainable without the grief that comes along with it.
Well, I don't know about eating faeces and dying, but I do know that when that substance hits the fan, sometimes not ducking responsibilities and dealing with the crap and cleaning it up is the best way forward.
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